Therapy often involves unpacking emotions, thoughts, and behaviors; sometimes the language we use during these sessions can feel unfamiliar or abstract. As a therapist, I strive to create clarity for my clients by explaining key concepts and phrases integral to the therapeutic process. Below are some common explanations I share with clients, along with the deeper meanings behind what I often say in sessions.
1. "Tell me more"
This phrase invites you to explore your thoughts further. When I say this, it’s not because I need clarification but because I want you to deepen your understanding of what you’re already thinking about. Often, our initial thoughts are just the surface, and by delving deeper, we can uncover underlying emotions, patterns, or insights. It’s an opportunity for you to expand your awareness and articulate things that may have been simmering just beneath the surface.
2. "I hear"
When I say, “I hear,” it’s my way of reflecting on what I’ve understood from your words. It’s about validating your experience and ensuring that we’re on the same page. If I’ve misunderstood or misinterpreted something, please correct me—your clarity helps me better support you. This phrase is my commitment to listening deeply and staying attuned to your experience.
3. The Intent Behind Guilt and Shame
Emotions are messengers, each with a unique purpose. Two emotions I often discuss in therapy are guilt and shame:
Guilt: The intent behind guilt is to realign ourselves with our values. When we feel guilt, it’s often because our actions have deviated from what we believe is right. It’s a signal that invites us to reflect, take accountability, and course-correct to live in alignment with our personal moral compass.
Shame: The intent behind shame is to realign ourselves with our community. Shame can arise when we feel disconnected or fear rejection from those around us. While it’s a challenging emotion, it’s a cue to examine our relationships, behaviors, and sense of belonging. Shame encourages us to reconnect and strengthen our ties with others.
Understanding the purpose behind these emotions can transform how we respond to them. Instead of avoiding or suppressing guilt and shame, we can see them as guides toward growth and connection.
4. Emotional Regulation
Emotional regulation is the skill that allows us to understand and manage our emotions effectively. It’s not about suppressing or controlling how we feel but rather acknowledging our emotions, naming them, and responding in ways that align with our goals and values. Emotional regulation creates space between feeling and action, empowering us to make thoughtful choices.
5. Distress Tolerance
Distress tolerance is what allows us to feel and experience emotions as they are, without immediately trying to change or escape them. It’s about building resilience in the face of discomfort. By tolerating distress, we learn that emotions are temporary, even the intense and painful ones. This practice helps us navigate difficult moments without being overwhelmed or reactive.
6. Mindfulness
Mindfulness is the practice of being present with our lives exactly as they are, without judgment. It allows us to experience peace by focusing on the present moment rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Whether it’s noticing the sensation of your breath, savoring a meal, or taking a mindful walk, mindfulness teaches us to appreciate and fully engage with our lives.
Why These Insights Matter
These phrases and concepts may seem simple, but they hold profound truths that can transform how we understand and navigate our lives. Therapy is a space for exploration, reflection, and growth, and these insights are tools to help guide you on that journey. By deepening your understanding of these ideas, you’ll develop a greater sense of self-awareness and empowerment.
Remember, therapy is a collaborative process. If something resonates with you or sparks questions, let’s dive into it together. Growth happens when we stay curious and open to exploring what’s beneath the surface.
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